- Known to her male clients as The Ultimate Wing Girl
- Featured on CNN, Dr. Drew and Fox News
- Has helped thousands of women
That’s Not How Men Work, by Marni Kinrys
Understand how men really think, and what makes a man desire you, without him ever having to explain it.
I spent years coaching men as their Wing Girl, and I asked hundreds of them the little questions women always want answered. That’s Not How Men Work puts what they told me into one guide to meeting men, dating men and keeping a man’s love.
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Marni has been featured on
- CNN
- Dr. Drew
- Fox News
- The Los Angeles Times
- The Huffington Post
- The Chicago Tribune
- Marie Claire
- Elle
- Men’s Health
- Women’s Health
- Ask Men
- Loveline
“I just wish I knew what he was really thinking.”
Women say that to me all the time. And for years I was in the unusual position of actually knowing the answer.
I’m Marni Kinrys. Before I ever wrote a word for women, I coached men. My male clients knew me as The Ultimate Wing Girl.Marni
Men came to me to learn how to attract a great partner. To help them, I had to understand them: what they desire, what they want and never say out loud, and the reasons for so much of the behaviour that women find impossible to explain.
So I asked. I ran surveys asking hundreds of men to answer all the little questions most women want to know. I interviewed dozens of male relationship experts, single men and men in relationships. I already had my BA in Psychology from the University of Western Ontario, and now I had something no textbook gives you: a seat on the men’s side of the table.
What I saw there changed how I talk to women about men. Most of what confuses a woman about a man makes complete sense once you know what is going on in his head. The trouble is that women are hardly ever told. They take advice from friends who are guessing too, and they end up doing things that feel right to a woman and mean something completely different to a man.
Take commitment. Women are told again and again that men are afraid of it. The men I coached told me something very different, and once you hear it, you’ll never see a man’s hesitation the same way again.
Every time I watched a woman get a man wrong, the same words came into my head: that’s not how men work.
Once you know how men work, the right move is usually a small one.
Here is one from the book you can use tonight, whether you are on a second date or ten years married.
Notice him, out loud. Most women grow up thinking compliments are something men give and women receive. A man is meant to be strong and sure of himself, so surely he doesn’t need to hear it.
He does. Men love receiving compliments about their looks and their qualities once in a while, and they really appreciate being noticed that way by their partner. The thing a man dreads is the opposite: waiting for a laundry list of complaints, with not enough recognition for the effort he puts in.
So when a man is dependable and shows up to put work into the relationship, tell him how appreciated he is. When you like how he looks, or something he did, say so. When a woman affirms a man’s qualities like this, he’ll feel like he won the lottery.
What he usually hears after he plans an evening
Finally! That took ages. Did you remember to book a table this time?
He hears another complaint, and stops trying quite so hard next time.
What he is hoping to hear
That was such a lovely evening. Thank you for planning it. And you looked very handsome tonight.
He feels noticed and appreciated, and wants to do it all again.
That took no special talent. You noticed what he does and said it out loud, and to a man it means far more than most women realise.
The men I coached told me plenty more. Here are four of the things they most wish women knew, including the truth about commitment.
He needs his “me time”
Having a partner does not mean giving up personal freedom. One of the biggest fears men secretly have is being with a woman who doesn’t understand this need. All men need to feel free, within reason.
Respect comes first
He doesn’t mind disagreements, but most men draw the line at disrespect. Thick skin or not, he takes it to heart when he’s attacked on a personal level, talked down to, or a simple discussion gets escalated.
He wants to feel wanted
Don’t be afraid to take the initiative in the bedroom. Men want to feel needed, so making the first move sometimes is a huge turn-on.
Commitment doesn’t scare him
Men aren’t afraid of commitment. They’re afraid of committing to the wrong woman. Make him feel that being together will help him become a better person, and it can weigh heavily in his decision.
Most dating advice for women is written from outside a man’s head.
It comes from women guessing about men, or from rules that sound sensible until a real man does something you didn’t expect. You end up with theories about him when what you wanted was answers from him.
My advice comes from the other side of the table. I coached hundreds of men, I asked them the questions you would love to ask, and I have since helped thousands of women with That’s Not How Men Work. My work has been featured on CNN, Dr. Drew, Fox News, The Los Angeles Times, Marie Claire, Elle and Men’s Health, and I still research, write and make videos about dating, relationships and love.
That’s Not How Men Work is the book I wrote so you can see what my male clients showed me. It runs to over 180 pages, and it comes with three bonus audio programs, each with its own transcript: Unlock His Secrets, Confessions from a Wing Girl with Bernardo Mendez, and Intoxicate Him With Desire with Mirabelle Summers.
It’s everything the men told me, written for you.
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Everything you get
One book, three bonus audio programs, and the choice of reading on your phone or holding the printed copies in your hands.
The book gives you the whole picture of how men think and what they want. Some things are easier to take in when you hear them, so the bonuses are audio programs, two of them with other relationship experts, and each comes with a written transcript you can read at your own pace.
That’s Not How Men Work, the book
Over 180 pages on meeting men, dating men and discovering what makes men desire a woman more.
The book is built on my years of research as a dating coach for men. It shows you how to deliver that simple message men go gaga for, with real authenticity.
There is a questions and answers section inside the book, so you can keep track of the important things you achieve as you work through it.
What the book covers
Red Hot Attraction
What triggers attraction in a man, and the steps that get him feeling powerful surges of emotional and mental attraction he can’t control. These steps are the foundation of being seen as a potential long-term partner.
Long Term Attraction
One of the most common questions I get asked is how to keep a man’s love long term. Here you get the essential steps on how commitment works for men, and what to do to keep the fire burning in a relationship.
Internal Instinct
The hidden clues that separate the good from the bad when you meet a prospective partner. Develop this sixth sense and you’re far more likely to find a man who is truly worth having.
Dating Success
Dating is exciting, and it can also bring a lot of nervousness and anxiety. I want you to relax and enjoy it, so I’ve included a variety of tools that make dating fun and successful.
Conversation Starters
How to build a connection with a man, including conversation starters that engage him, captivate him and pique his interest, however busy or focused he is on something else.
Effective Communication
Men and women communicate in very different ways. Learn to open the lines of communication so you both benefit, and build a solid foundation for the relationship.
A Deep Understanding of How Men Think
Men need to feel respected by their partner, and understanding his thought process about women and relationships is how you show it. You’ll learn how to reach the deep emotions that make him feel respected and appreciated, so he feels he has found someone who truly “gets him.”
Positivity Moving Forward
Letting go of past experiences is hard. Find out how to release the old ideas that may be holding back the success of your next relationship.
Bonus #1: Unlock His Secrets
An audio program (MP3) with a full PDF transcript.
This bonus shows you how to communicate with a man so that he listens and is more attentive. You’ll uncover the deepest, darkest mysteries of what he’s thinking, and strengthen the communication in your relationship.
- How to talk so he listens and pays attention
- How to break through even the most disinterested man’s walls, and have him opening his heart to you
- Listen on your phone, or read the transcript
Bonus #2: Confessions from a Wing Girl, with Bernardo Mendez
Top male attraction secrets, as an audio program with an accompanying transcript.
Here you hear from well-renowned love guru Bernardo Mendez. Listen as he reveals content you won’t have seen before on how to find the deep, radiant love every woman deserves.
- Top male attraction secrets from a man’s point of view
- How to find the deep, radiant love you deserve
- Audio MP3 plus a PDF transcript
Bonus #3: Intoxicate Him With Desire
An audio program and transcript with internationally known author Mirabelle Summers.
Mirabelle and I teach you the essential tips on how attraction works for men, and how to apply it in your own life easily, following a tried and true step-by-step formula.
- How attraction really works for men
- A tried and true step-by-step formula to apply it
- Audio MP3 plus a PDF transcript
Read it, hear it, or hold it
Instant online access, printed books and CDs shipped to your door, or both.
The digital program is in PDF and MP3 format, so you can open it on your phone, tablet or computer within minutes of ordering and take it with you wherever you go. If you would rather turn real pages, the physical version sends you the printed book, and each bonus as an audio CD and a book.
Digital
The eBook, plus every bonus as MP3 audio and a PDF transcript.
Physical
The printed book, plus every bonus as an audio CD and a book.
Digital & Physical
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Get That’s Not How Men Work today.
I spent years coaching men as their Wing Girl, and I asked hundreds of them the little questions women always want answered. That’s Not How Men Work puts what they told me into one guide to meeting men, dating men and keeping a man’s love.
Digital Package
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- The That’s Not How Men Work eBook (180+ pages)
- Unlock His Secrets (Audio MP3 & PDF Transcript)
- Confessions from a Wing Girl: Top Male Attraction Secrets with Bernardo Mendez (Audio MP3 & PDF Transcript)
- Intoxicate Him With Desire (Audio MP3 & PDF Transcript)
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- The That’s Not How Men Work printed book
- Unlock His Secrets Audio CD & Book
- Confessions from a Wing Girl: Top Male Attraction Secrets with Bernardo Mendez Audio CD & Book
- Intoxicate Him With Desire Audio CD & Book
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Physical Version + Online Access
- The That’s Not How Men Work Book & PDF
- Unlock His Secrets CD, Book & Online Access
- Confessions from a Wing Girl: Top Male Attraction Secrets with Bernardo Mendez CD, Book & Online Access
- Intoxicate Him With Desire CD, Book & Online Access
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60-day 100% money-back guarantee on every package. Place your order, read the book, listen to the bonuses and test out my approach to men and relationships. If at any time in the next 60 days you’re not 100% happy, email our Customer Happiness Team and they’ll refund you. I’ve put all the risk on me.
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I’ve helped thousands of women understand the men in their lives.
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Questions women ask me before they order
Is this for me if I’m single, dating or married?
Yes. The book covers meeting men, dating men and keeping a man’s love long term, so it is just as useful before a first date as it is ten years into a marriage.
Will this work even if I’ve never felt like success with men came easy?
Absolutely. The book shows you step by step how men really think and feel about women, and what it takes to meet men, date men and make a man desire you.
How fast will I see results?
Some women see, and feel, results almost straight away. It depends on how quickly you put the methods to work. Most members have reported significant positive changes within weeks, so the faster you start, the faster you see them.
When will I get the program?
Within five minutes of ordering the digital version, and often sooner depending on your internet connection. Click a Buy button, go through the 100% secure checkout, and pay by PayPal, credit card or debit card. You’ll get instant access to That’s Not How Men Work and all three bonuses, ready to download to your phone, laptop or tablet.
What format is it in, and will it work on my phone?
Yes. The main program is in PDF and MP3 format, so you can download it to a phone, tablet, computer or any other device and open it whenever you like.
What is the difference between the three packages?
All three have the same book and the same three bonuses. The Digital Package ($49.95) is online access only: the eBook, plus each bonus as an MP3 audio and a PDF transcript. The Physical Package ($99.95 + shipping & handling) sends you the printed book, and each bonus as an audio CD and a book. The Digital & Physical Package ($99.95 + shipping & handling) gives you everything: the printed books and CDs, plus online access.
How much is shipping & handling?
Shipping & Handling costs are: $15 for all US orders, $25 for Canada, and $25 (minimum) for international orders.
What if I have more questions?
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What if it isn’t for me?
Then you get your money back. If you decide within 60 days that the program isn’t for you, send our Customer Happiness Team a quick message at support@thatsnothowmenwork.com and we’ll refund every penny. It’s really that simple.
Find out what he’s really thinking.
That’s Not How Men Work: the 180-page book, plus three bonus audio programs with their transcripts.
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